We must learn to talk about..
time heals, but time takes time.
[*Disclaimer: Today's newsletter obtains something we are never willing to talk about, yet I felt like writing about it.]
There's only one thing we are sure of in life: this life as we know it has an end. However, how come the only certainty is the one we don't talk about or learn how to deal with? A great quote by a Brazilian author, Fabricio Carpinejar, says, "We never feel so alive as at the time of death."—truths that are hard to swallow.
We learn about the natural cycle of life, from birth, toddler, teen, young adult, adult, and senior to death, but we are never ready for an interruption of this cycle. How should we address a loss? Is there such a thing? We grieve not just for the current moment, we grieve for the future we planned with the person who died—the loss of a future. From that, every time an event happens that you would expect that person to attend, there will be some grief involved.
If you have already lost someone, you must have noticed the rupture of naturalness: you laugh with guilt and cry out of nowhere without knowing why. A broad mix of feelings can make life confusing to navigate for a while. Also, anxiety may be the missing stage of grief that nobody talks about, of being so anxious for not knowing how to handle it. And still, we are taught not to talk about the only certainty we have.
As I grew older, I got scarier about losing someone because, in the end, we are the ones suffering, not who are gone. It is more about who stays than who goes away. In other words, humans are selfish, we never want to deal with things out of our control that sometimes feels easier to ignore than go through. Death makes us think about life. And in life, we always tend to look at ourselves.
I have many questions about it. If we talked more, would it be easier to deal with? Will there ever be an easier way to grieve? Why are we so scared to talk about it? Is it because we don't want to believe that it is the same end for everyone? Time heals, but time takes time. What do I do with everything I am feeling now?
Deep down, everyone around you is going through something, we are all struggling and tend to forget to remind ourselves that. Giving ourselves permission to feel that can be really therapeutic.
Loss reminds us of the power of our lives, which we take for granted most of the time. And my life can't be all in vain. All we leave behind are memories, and to be remembered is a fundamental human desire. Am I doing it right? What is right? There's only one thing I know for sure: breathing feels good. Breathing is life.
🟠 #INTERNETFINDS: weekly things worth sharing and consuming 🧠
Gen Z Spending Gets Supercharged ➞ Gen Zs are not afraid to spend. They are focused on making money rather than keeping it.
Why Your Best Days Are Ahead Of You ➞ While we continue to see an influx of young superstars, the older elite performers seem to be doing quite well and holding their own.
Favorite Podcast of The Week ➞ This interview was unexpectedly one of the most real and heartfelt interviews I have ever heard.
Gisele Bündchen Teaches Brazilian Slang ➞ in this episode of Slang School at Vanity Fair.
Role Model - a little more time ➞ This music is as cute as the video.
➞ Different types of grief represented in:
Series: Shrinking, Everything's Gonna Be Okay, Never Have I Ever, The Good Place, and Fleabag.
Movies: Little Miss Sunshine, Captain Fantastic, 50/50, Our Friend, and Pieces of a Woman.
