Women move on—not from responsibilities, but from fatigue.
*spoiler alert: express dissatisfaction/annoyance
How many times have you complained this week? I'm guilty of feeling this is all I've done. As a society, any time we are sharing emotional content with someone, it is a vehicle for bonding. Complaining is part of the process to help with our emotions like stress and frustration; therefore, let me complain. And let's bond.
Women are known to complain more about things than men, but being a woman is a roller coaster of feelings and a never-ending story to belong. How can I not complain when you see headlines like this: The Sunsetting of the Girlboss Is Nearly Complete - my anger aroused, plus a woman wrote it. It's even more revolting to see that a woman wrote it. We must unite.
Emily Weiss revolutionized the market by building a direct-to-consumer beauty brand in 2014 and was one of the first women-led companies to achieve unicorn status. When announcing she was stepping down as CEO (although she will continue as Executive Chairwoman), the media once again brought the news as she was defeated, the last girlboss standing.
I understand the term girlboss is dead, from a powerful statement to a sexist form, and all girlbosses from the era have "fallen." But it was essential to open the doors for all the women. Like it or not, Emily Weiss, Sophia Amoruso, Audrey Gelman, Steph Corey, Tyler Haney, Sara Blakely, and Jen Rubio represented change.
After years, stepping down as CEO of your own company is a standard move in the business world. To evolve, a company needs changes like everyone else. You can't be the same forever. But why every time a woman steps down, she is still portrayed as a failure? It's 2022, and in the case of Emily Weiss, instead of highlighting all the significant changes she was responsible for, she is seen as a quitter, unqualified for the job, or someone who can't take the pressure.
Another woman who got my attention, and everyone else's, is Amber Heard because of the shit show between her and Johnny Depp. We are used to hearing bad attitudes about men that we even normalized various behaviors and laughed at her viral TikTok trend. I am not in a position to say who is right or wrong about this trial, but the way she was diminished by the media as if he was an angel, proved that the world continues to be very sexist.
If we don't change how women are portrayed in the media, our daily work to be respected, fighting and building bridges, will never be enough to achieve equity and equality in any business. Who was the last man CEO you read about stepping down? I bet you can't name one.
These stories make me feel about how tireless women have to be. I want to stop complaining, but I can't. In addition to famous women being shamed, in my real world, every other week, a different friend comes to share with me something absurd.
One friend of mine is getting a divorce because her soon-to-be ex-husband, who is not JLo, wants sex at least once a day (with three kids and both working). In his mind, he is reasonable and she is a bitch. Besides saying to her that being a mom (of three) is not a job, and she owned him for all the years she was a stay home mom, while he was the one bringing the money. We laughed. After hanging up, I cried.
As much as I love being a woman, it is also exhausting because it seems like we never have a break: one step forward, three steps back. It sounds like a fun music dance, but it's not. The world gives me reasons every day to express my dissatisfaction. Women can and should complain. We are tired.
🟠 #INTERNETFINDS: weekly things worth sharing and consuming
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Trends are dead ➞ There are more choices than ever today, but seemingly less authority as to what constitutes a trend’s lasting legitimacy.
Favorite Podcast of The Week ➞ There is a culture shift coming.
Taylor Swift's commencement address to NYU class of '22 ➞ "Life can be heavy if you carry it all at once. Know what to keep and what to release. Decide what is yours to hold, and let all the other things go."
Miley Cyrus - My Future (Billie Eilish cover) ➞ Simply beautiful.
Above all, be the heroine of your life, not the victim. ― Nora Ephron